Not so long ago I overheard some guys talking about cars. Supposedly certain cars are pussy openers… First thought was: I like Aston Martins, old Jaguars and old Maserati’s, but none of them would make me want to spread my legs for the guy who is driving them. Okay, Daniel Craig would be difficult to resist, but not because he is driving a pretty car. He could drive an old truck, wearing some torn up jeans and an old t-shirt and would still be sexy enough to make me want to surrender myself to him.
It made me wonder what kind of women do open their pussies because of what car the man is driving, or what suit he is wearing, what job he has or how much money he carries around in his wallet. Or more specific, what their motive is. I have read often enough that women find status, money, power sexy. I would like to know why. All I can think of, is because it makes the woman feel good about herself, because she gets media attention, because he buys her expensive presents or because she can buy anything she wants. It is some sort of self-love, it has nothing to do with him.
Do you guys really want that? Don’t you want a woman to have the hots for you because of you, who you are?
Okay, by using those assets mentioned above you can probably get a woman who is otherwise “out of your reach”. I find it a bit pathetic, but hey, I am not a guy and I am not the kind of woman who might be out of someone’s reach, so I can’t say much about it. I just know that for me to open my pussy, I only need humour, charm, some intelligence and the element of surprise. And he has to smell just right :)
It has been ages since I posted the last Male Body of the Week. After checking my mailbox today, I figured I should continue with this.
So here is Brian. I hope you ladies like what you see :)
Before my holiday I read something online about women supposedly wanting more dirty sex (sorry, can’t seem to find the article anymore…). What is dirty and what is not is different for every woman cq. individual, but I think we all have a picture of what dirty sex could be. I imagine it involves being rougher, naughtier, dirty talking, animalistic sex, things like that. I did not really think about this anymore until I finished a book called “The G-Spot Handbook for Sex Gods” (original title: “Das-G-Punkt-Handbuch-für-Sexgötter” – as far as I know is only available in german) by Yella Cremer. A great book by the way! I hope it will get translated because I think every man should read it.
At some point the author mentions the Madonna-whore complex. This term originates from Sigmund Freud and is explained as the inability of the male patient to get/maintain sexually aroused within a commited, loving relationship. The man sees a woman either as a prostitute or a saint. Freud wrote: “Where such men love they have no desire and where they desire they cannot love.”
Nowadays we tend to use this term to describe that for a man the perfect woman is both a saint (= great housewife, mother, friend, etc.) and a whore in the bedroom. Women usually get annoyed when this topic comes up, for we all know that after a long day of looking after the children, changing diapers, breastfeeding, cleaning the house, bringing and picking the children up from school, cooking, most likely also working part-time or even full-time, etc., etc., most of us are not really in the mood for wild, passionate lovemaking. Not because we don’t want to, but because we are tired. How can men expect all this from us, we say. Indeed, how can they.
But then, don’t women expect the same from men? We want them to work, provide for the family, and when they are home help us out in the house and with the children, listen to how hard our day has been, how annoying the kids were, whatever, be our best friend and turn into a wild, insatiable stud between the sheets. I’d say here are quite some high expectations as well. I am pretty sure he’d like to be a sex machine, but he is probably rather exhausted too…
So what is going on here? Are modern women suffering from some sort of Dionysus-allrounder complex? Or should we simply call it stupidity on both sides? We expect everything from one another, which we all know is unrealistic and can very well result not only in disappointment, but also resentment towards each other – and obviously not the kind of sex we desire. Even when we think everything runs rather smoothly in our lives and with each other, the sex quantity for most people in a long term relationship or marriage decreases. Sextherapists advice to plan sex dates, which is not a bad suggestion. Still, when spontaneity lacks, planning to have sex on a certain day at a certain time in my humble opinion does not really help. In addition, when the butterflies are gone, when daily life rules us, the chance is high that the sex becomes more routine, maybe uninspired or even boring.
Maybe we should get back to being cavemen again. No multitasking, no high expectations, no confusement about gender roles, just the stress of trying to survive and the thrill of primitive cavemen sex. Sounds good to me :)
Finally my husband and I had the opportunity to test the We-Vibe 4 :)
From my perspective:
Fits very well, does not move of slide away during sex or walking around and does not hurt in any way during lovemaking. I am not much of a vibration-fan, but it does feel good in general, for the vibration is not too intense. With a penis included, I feel more “filled up” = also good.
For me it would probably be better if the part that lies on the clitoris would be a bit longer, though.
From his perspective:
Vibration feels good. When penetrating “doggy style” the balls get massged by the outer part of the We-Vibe too, which is nice as well.
Of course, the pussy is tighter and therefore also a plus. Not easy to last long though ;)
Conclusion: definitely better than the first version. We have to see how it handles being cleaned, but I have to say I am confident nothing will happen to it.
I will experiment a bit more with it on my own – and I am sure we will use it again as a couple too.