Love, Sex, Pain, Confusion

What do women want in bed?” This question never seems to receive a satisfactory answer. It is not that simple, for we do not all want the same. But based on the conversations I have had with other women, I can say that women seem to like it “rougher” and wilder than most men suspect.

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I think the question one has to answer, is what meaning sex has to you. Is sex an expression of love? Is sex (only) a means to have children? Is sex a way to release stress? Is sex a way to establish and explore your (pain)limits? Or is sex playtime with your partner, the desire to please and an expression of lust?

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In my opinion we can express love all day in thousand very meaningful ways without getting our clothes off. If I want to show my love for someone, I say it, I cuddle and kiss him, or cook something very nice for him, or bring a gift, etc. I do something for him that I know he appreciates. That is foreplay!

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Sex – for me – is not so much an expression of love, it is having the best fun ever with someone I love/am in love with. I want to play with him, I want to make him feel desired, then I want to feel him, his body, his power, take in the energy he gives me by taking what he wants. His pleasure is my pleasure. I get out of my head and let go. And that means passion – and action – alright!

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A man once argued that this is fucking or being fucked without feelings, something like “wham, bam, thank you m’am”. Of course it can be like that if the man has his way for a few minutes and leaves the woman high and dry. But that’s not what talking about and so I disagree.

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To be able to have wild, mind-blowing sex and feel aboslutely satisfied afterward – to be able to completely give yourself to someone – ultimate trust is needed. To me that is the highest form of intimacy and a very intense feeling indeed. My body is my gift to you. Your body your gift to me. We can play with each other and know that we won’t do something the other does not want. Now please fuck my brain out!

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Sex like this does not even need an orgasm because it is so energetic and fulfilling. But I won’t lie… I won’t say no to receiving some extra attention afterwards… Who wouldn’t want the cherry on top? ;)

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and

Stone Temple Pilots “Sex Type Thing”

I am, I am, I am
I said I wanna get next to you
I said I gonna get close to you
You wouldn’t want me have to hurt you too, hurt you too?

I ain’t, I ain’t, I ain’t
A buyin’ into your apathy
I’m gonna learn ya my philosophy
You wanna know about atrocity, atrocity?

I know you want what’s on my mind
I know you like what’s on my mind
I know it eats you up inside
I know, you know, you know, you know

I am a man, a man
I’ll give ya somethin’ that ya won’t forget
I said ya shouldn’t have worn that dress
I said ya shouldn’t have worn that dress

I know you want what’s on my mind
I know you like what’s on my mind
I know it eats you up inside
I know, you know, you know, you know

Here I come, I come, I come

I am, I am, I am
I said I wanna get next to you
I said I gonna get close to you
You wouldn’t want me have to hurt you too, hurt you too?

I know you want what’s on my mind
I know you like what’s on my mind
I know it eats you up inside
I know, you know, you know, you know
I know you want what’s on my mind
I know you like what’s on my mind
I know it eats you up inside
I know, you know, you know, you know

Here I come, I come, I come
Here I come, I come, I come
Here I come, I come, I come
Here I come, I come, I come

Boys that ask…

In Holland we have a saying: “jongetjes die vragen, worden overgeslagen”. Meaning: “boys that ask, are being skipped”.
I had to think of this when I read the many messages the guy in this picture sent me – and was actually close to simply not post a photo of him on my blog… I know, I can be nasty :)

But today I feel like being nice, so here it is, my fav picture of the series he sent me. Enjoy!

 

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Come on Barbie, let’s go party!

Barbie_KenMy Ken used to have his hands full, not only with my two Barbies, one Fleur and one Shirley, but also with the ones of my best friend. Being a single man in a matriarch society has its advantages :). But Ken certainly did not have so much fun as the Kens in the following blogpost by Sam Stryker: 23 Cosmo Sex Positions, As Demonstrated by Barbie and Ken. Enjoy!

The following song by Aqua seems to fit quite nicely ;)