NMHW supports Porn Research Survey

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Together with Feona Attwood and Martin Barker, Dr. Clarissa Smith, author of the book ‘One for the Girls! The pleasures and practises of reading women’s porn‘ and participant in the NMHW illustrated book project, is working on a research project about the every day use of pornography. The researchers aim to gather information about why people watch pornography, what it is exactly they like about it, what their thoughts are on the topic in general and how pornography fits into people’s sexual feelings, experiences and relationships.

In case you are a frequent or infrequent user of pornography and want to help with the research, please take some time to fill in the questionnaire. I did :)

N.B.: the information provided by you will be rendered entirely anonymous the moment you submit your responses, and you will not be able to be identified in any presentation or publication of this research. It will be impossible to trace your data back to you individually. In accordance with the UK Data Protection Act, this information may be retained indefinitely.

To get into the mood, I recommend a free short movie by producer Erika Lust, called Handcuffs. Just click on the link and enjoy…

Male Body of the Week (week 13)

This week I have a brand new shot for you by one of the participating photographers of the NMHW illustrated book project, Samuel B. More work by this artist can be found on Meine Knipserei.

Photographer: Samuel B.

 

Article by Lisa Wade: “Gendered Reactions to Male and Female Nudity”

The following article by Lisa Wade sadly proves there is still a lot more work to be done.

Please read Gendered Reactions to Male and Female Nudity and share your thoughts on the topic.

What I would like to know, is how both women and men would respond to authentic male nudity instead of a body like the one Sylvester Stalone has. Because let’s be honest here: his body is simply a bit too much. Or? I am certainly not turned on by such an unnatural bunch of muscles.

Finally an article to get annoyed about again :)

I was actually looking for more interesting and especially smart articles about male nudity when I stumbled upon the following text by Jane A. Thomas: ‘Male Nudity Does Not Lead to Women’s Sexual Arousal’. You understand I had to read this. And huray, I got annoyed! Being annoyed means I can write a critical review and yes, I admit, I love writing critical reviews.

The title made me wonder when this article had come into being. I thought it had to be quite old, but it dates from 2009. Oh dear…

The following four quotes made me want to cry:

“Since women tend to be shocked by male nudity, especially genitals, they are censored in our society. Women admire men more for their status or achievements: in smart dress or uniform.”

Eureka! Now we know the reason why male nudity/the penis is censored in our society: because women are shocked by it! That explains why women like to grab it, play with it, feel it, caress it, taste it – and secretly wonder what it is like to have one themselves, well, for a day or two, not longer of course ;).

That women don’t like men because they are sexy, gorgeous and attractive, we’ve already known for decades. That’s why we all marry extremely rich, powerful men wearing uniforms.

“The film ‘The Wedding Date’ includes a scene where Dermot Mulroney is very relaxed about appearing naked in front of a woman (as if!). The woman’s horrified reaction to a man’s genitals not only indicates how female sexuality differs to male sexuality but also provides a clue as to why women’s sexual arousal is much more elusive with a partner.”

I have no clue what the author means with the end of the second sentence. This is also one of the reasons why this article is badly written. Not only is it stereotypical, insulting (especially towards men) and quite incoherent, the author states something without giving any thorough explanation. No wonder, since it is based on… on what?

“Men’s sexual arousal arises from looking at images of the naked body of a sexual partner, which explains the daily sales of pornographic magazines. Women, who have explored eroticism and learned about their own sexual arousal through female masturbation, will know that female sexual arousal arises more from the context of relationships and sexual scenarios (sexual fantasies) than from images of the male body.”

Again, I’d like to know on what information, or better yet what research this statement is based. Men do not fantasize? For men it is all about full-frontal nudity? They don’t enjoy more subtle fantasies? Women don’t get turned on by male nudity? Images of a naked men do not trigger the female imagination? Women are not producing magazines about male nudity and buying them? Sigh…

“Nudity causes men to think about sex even more than usual and they mistakenly assume that women have the same sexual motivations.”

When are people finally going to stop underlining the so-called sexual differences between men and women?! Just because we are meant to think there are, doesn’t mean it is true. For ages we have been taught that male nudity – expecially the penis – is dirty, ugly, pornographic, you name it. I am pretty sure that throughout history there has never been a group of women who decided that from that point on the male body and its genitals are disgusting and therefore shocking. It’s more likely we have a certain institution to thank for that.

Today, in our society, we are not used to male nudity in the way we are used to female nudity. That is the reason why there are still so many women who think male nudity and fantasizing about it is wrong. This idea is programmed in our minds with the goal to prevent women from becoming men- flesh-craving animals :). It is also why men feel that male nudity is only meant for the gay community and/or feel awkward and ashamed about showing their awesome bodies and genitals. Consequently, it is also why there still is so little male nudity out there for women to enjoy and LOOK at.

A beautiful, hawt penis, by photographer Pilo Pichler

 

I want to stay in bed…

Today I have off from work, which is good because I am a bit ill. I would like to go back to bed and remain there the rest of the day instead of sitting here behind my computer, but then I know the strangest thing will happen. I had already been there early today.

If I would give in and go back to sleep, I will doze off and enter a state of being aware where I am and that I am asleep. The weird thing about this, is that I won’t be able to wake up easily. My eyes are shut. There is no way I can open them. I try though, and that’s when I start being deceived. I think I have managed to wake up, that I am getting out of bed and am walking around the apartment, but I am not. I will realize this, because things are slightly different. The furniture is just not right, or the street doesn’t look the same. Maybe the sun is shining, but I know that it is raining. So I have to walk back to bed and start the process all over again.

Other times I think there is a man in the apartment. Sometimes it is my boyfriend, sometimes it is someone I do not know. Earlier this morning it was the latter. I knew there was a stranger in my bedroom. I felt him crawling towards me on the bed, grabbing my arms and holding me in place with his weight. His plans for me were obvious. I was not scared – in fact, I wanted it – but I also wanted to see who he was. With all my strength I forced my eyes to open. Through my eyelashes I only managed to see the silhouette of his face. Maybe he was my boyfriend, maybe he wasn’t. It was too fuzzy. I simply closed them again and decided I would go with the flow.

As it started to get really interesting, as in steamy and sexy interesting, I woke up – for real. Grmbl…!

Now, to compensate for this mean act of my subconscious, I got myself an image of a sexy naked man in bed. All I need to do now, is relax and wait for the real man to come home :)

 

There is nothing wrong with the male body!

So beautiful...

“Like countless American children, I grew up hearing the nursery rhyme that claimed that little boys were made of “snips and snails and puppy-dog tails” while girls were “sugar and spice and everything nice.” Attached as I was as a small boy to our pet dachshund, I thought puppy-dog tails were a fine thing indeed, but the point of the rhyme wasn’t lost on me. Boys were dirty, girls were clean and pure.

We’re raised in a culture that both celebrates and pathologizes male “dirtiness.” On the one hand, boys were and are given license to be louder, rowdier, and aggressive. We’re expected to get our hands dirty, to rip our pants and get covered in stains. We enjoy a freedom to be dirty that even now, our sisters often do not. No mistake, that’s male privilege.”

This is the start of a very open and honest article by Hugy Schwyzer about how we in our society are taught to think that the male body is dirty compaired to the aesthetic and beautiful female body. I can only say this: please read this article!