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A great article about pornography for women and the Dutch television channel Dusk, by Suraya Sidhu Singh:
Delfts Blauw
“It’s recently come to worldwide attention that a television channel featuring only porn aimed at women – Dusk – is thriving in The Netherlands, and has been for three years. The channel features the work of prominent female porn directors such as Erika Lust and Jennifer Lyon Bell, and a range of other explicit adult films aimed at women.”
Delfts Blauw
“The changing world of porn for women indicates that if women aren’t increasingly holding the purse strings and calling the shots ourselves, we’re at least starting to be involved far more in the design and production of that which targets us as consumers.”
P.S.: my country makes me proud! 
At the erotic shop for women we do not only sell toys, oils and dessous. We also have books in our assortment. Most of them are how-to books with titles such as ‘How to become the perfect lover’ and ‘How to find Mr Perfect’, or erotic novels like ’Beyond Innocence’ or ‘Fuck your Friends’. We don’t really have illustrated books, because there simply aren’t that many that make women drool. But just so you know: we at NMHW are working hard on solving this issue.
A few weeks ago the shop received a book delivery with some new titles – for us at least. What caught my eye: a small book called ‘Porn for Women‘. Not a book about women and pornography. No, a book with pictures. I eagerly open it and what do I see: dressed men looking sweet into the camera or doing typical female activities such as vacuum cleaning and cooking, accomanied by texts such as “You look stressed. Let me make you some tea and we can talk about it. Chamomile okay?” and “I don’t have to have a reason to bring you flowers.”
My heart skips a beat. My legs are shaking. Pearls of sweat run down my face. I am thinking: can I wait until I get home, or shall I take this book, a toy from the shop and have a ‘lunch’ break in the bathroom right now?
Okay. Seriously. Is this meant to be a joke? I guess so. I hope so. If so, I find the title misleading and quite stereotypical. Better would be: ‘What men can do to annoy women a little less – and make women love them a little more’.
This is what women expect when opening a book called ‘Porn for Women’:
Here is a good example…
'Adam and Eve', by Artem Yankovsky
It has not been that long ago that female producers started entering the land of pornography. Maybe the infiltration in this by men dominated working field started about fifteen-twenty years ago? Anyway, women are there and working hard on making movies that we in my shop call female-friendly, or couple-friendly. But what is female- or couple-friendly exactly?
I think most women will agree with me that the average porn movie is not what one could call the visualization of female sexual fantasies. It usually has a bad story or no story at all, and the acts are as predictable as predictable can be. It is made by men, for men. And that is totally okay. Pornography is fantasy, nothing more and nothing less. What’s also totally okay, is for us women to like that stuff too. Really, it is!
Many of us are brought up with the idea that porn is bad and women-unfriendly. Yes, there are women-unfriendly porn movies, in which the actresses are being forced against their will, drugged, or underpaid. There is bad pornography, such as child porn, obviously. Still, there are producers who pay properly, who use women who are over 18 and who do it because they want to/enjoy doing it. Under these conditions, what could be wrong with it?
Nowadays, porn is not exclusively for men any more. More and more women – young and old – are curious about it. Thanks to the internet, it is available to all. It would be interesting to know how many women watch pornography through the internet. And as I have said, there are female porn producers who focuss on the female porn cunsumer. Candida Royalle (have to it say though: who calls herself after an infection), Erika Lust, Petra Joy and Anna Spam are some of the more prominent names in the business.
What do these female producers do differently? They use nice settings, create erotic atmospheres, and choose people who don’t look like the typical porn actor or actress. Sometimes there is more of a story too.
Their movies are the ones which are sold as women- and couple friendly. Films women can watch alone, or together with their partners. So how come many women – me included – feel it is still not what they are looking for?
Many of their movies look too artistic, are too soft or simply just the same as any other regular porn movie on the market. In addition, these female-orientated films often contain lots of girl-on-girl action. Sometimes there is hardly a man – or even no man – involved. And no, I am not talking about movies that have been made specifically for lesbian viewers. I am hetero sexual girl myself, which does not mean I do not enjoy seeing a scene with women only, but in the end what I want to see, is man flesh. I want to see an attractive, charismatic man, not a He-Man or a Schwarzenegger, and certainly not one of whom you can wonder if he has ever been with a women at all. I want to see a man who looks like he knows what he is doing. A man with sexy skills. And I am not the only one.
Women do not necessarily want a story, although I think it would be cool to see a quality film, like a thriller, with real, hot sex scenes combined. Women do not want candle light porn either (they are just not admitting it to themselves, let alone saying it out loud). Women want to see good, sexy stuff. Maybe not the standard repertoire – that gets quite boring after a while, don’t you think? – but just as naughty. Longer shots and close ups of the male body, mhhh, that would be nice! Something to watch on our own, or together with our lovely, sexy men… Catching my point?
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