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THE PENIS – WHY WOMEN LOVE HIM
Women feel mysteriously attracted to it. It awakens their curiosity. They want to know what it is to like to have it – what it feels like to use it…
Unfortunately, we ladies will never know. The only thing we can do, is befriend it.
One of the most beautiful, deeply intimate friendships is the one that exists between the penis and the ladies. Here we want to take a moment and explain why women are so very fond of it.
Women have a strong tactile sense. Soft materials make them feel all warm and cuddly. The skin of the penis feels soft like silk. This makes it a very desirable object for the female touch.
Women love to cuddle. The more, the better. It is something they have in common with the penis.
Stress is something women nowadays are not unfamiliar with. To relax, the penis can be the perfect stress relief - manually and otherwise. No need for them to waste money on stress balls.
The female species is a very curious species. They like to investigate. The penis and the different sizes it can grow or shrink to – under specific conditions – fascinates women greatly. They love to observe closely and experiment thoroughly.
The penis is not ashamed to show his lady friend he is happy to see her. He also pokes her, lets her know he is there for her. Women do appreciate these gestures.
One way to a woman’s heart, is to give her presents. The penis is a giver by nature.
And last but not least, the penis knows his woman’s innermost secrets. He sees her true identity and loves her for it. This makes them best friends for life.
SEXUAL PROBLEMS – TIPS FOR MEN
Having sex and experiencing fantastic orgasms are among almost every one’s favorite activities, either with another person, or alone. For in the end, what is more desirable, fascinating, fulfilling, mind-blowing and relaxing than an orgasm? We certainly can’t think of anything.
Thanks to the over-sexualization of modern society, the media and easy access to pornography on the internet, the sexual pressure and insecurity men experience seems to increase rapidly. Premature ejaculation, the size of the penis and endurance in bed are the most important sexual issues for men.
Penis enlargment (phalloplasty) and penis widening (girth enhancement) are two surgical procedures available to solve the size issue. Apart from the high costs, the side-effects are considerable:
- wrong direction of the angle of the penis
- blood vessel injuries
- slipping and shifting during sexual intercourse
- scars and infections
- pain during arousal, urinating and ejaculation
- bumps (penis widening)
According to research 50% of the men who had one of these two procedures, mentioned one or more of the problems listed above. In addition, the results are often unsatisfying: the flaccid penis may be bigger, but the size of the erection will not make much of a difference.
There are alternatives – read: exercises – that do not involve a surgical knife, have better results, cost nothing and are definitely more fun to do. One of them is called Jelqing, aka milking. Here is how you do it:
Form a circle/OK-sigh with your index finger and thumb and slide the circle over your half-erect penis, down to the base/root of the penis. It is not important if you have the thumb up or down. Do make sure the pressure is spread equally.
Slowly move your finger and thumb up – take 5 to 10 seconds for this movement! – and stop when you reach the glans. Now use your free hand, form the same circle with thumb and index finger and repeat the movement after having removed your other hand.
Take half an hour for this exercise, with some breaks in between. You can use a lubricant if you like.
And: you can also ask your partner to do the jelqing for you. It might be a bit more challenging though, since it is better if the penis does not get fully erect.
Apart from increasing the size, you also get a better blood circulation in the penis, a stronger erection and practice in postponing the orgasm. All benefits!
Raw Tantra – male enhancement exercises
Loren Johnson, a Tantra Yoga and Chi Kung instructor, offers exercises to achieve a bigger, stronger erection, to postpone the orgasm and to experience the sexual energy flow through the whole body. You can see a trailer of his instructional DVD on his website. We have watched the DVD ourselves and are convinced his method works. Apart from that, Loren is a pleasure to the eye
Orgasmic Yoga – sexological bodywork
Our society is not one in which parents inform their children about masturbation, let alone tell them it is normal and good to discover your body and love yourself. A veil of shame lies over this topic, which is a shame in itself. How to masturbate is therefore something we usually find out by accident and then further explore and practice in secret. A boy will have his first wet dream or spontaneous orgasm. Once that has happened, he is bound to start playing with his penis.
During the years we practice auto-sex, we develop a technique of which we know it will bring us the desired result. Most of the time this technique is so efficient, that it will help us reach an orgasm quickly. We get used to this particular way we stimulate ourselves, the body gets used to it. To masturbate in a different way, for instance using the other hand or moving your hand or fingers differently does not work. Our desire telling us we want a quick result adds to the failure of the different technique.
Orgasmic Yoga teaches you how to experience an orgasm differently, more intensely and more complete. The goal is not a quick orgasm, but taking time for it and feeling it through your whole body.
Didi Liebold, a sexological bodyworker, suggests 30 minutes for 30 days:
Choose a place where you normally do not masturbate. Start caressing your body, focus on your whole body. Don’t think of anything erotic or pornographic: no stories or fantasies. Don’t use sex toys or lubricants. Just feel yourself.
Start touching your penis. Massage it, squeeze it, touch it differently. You can combine this with practicing postponing your orgasm by stopping once you almost reach the point of no return.
Do this every day for thirty days, thirty minutes per day. Keep a diary and write down what you have experienced.
We told you it is more fun!
TOYS FOR BOYS
We all know that boys like to play, no matter how old they are. That’s what makes boys boys, and that’s why girls like them so much – most of the time anyway *wink*
Because boys like to play, boys also like toys. Due to this fact, I feel I cannot have a website about male nudity and male sexuality without sharing some of our knowledge on male pleasure objects with you. For guys, there is something for you to have fun with – and ladies love watching you at it. If you are lucky, they might even offer their assistance…
Before we start having fun, beware of a few things:
- Don’t use toys that contain phthalate, such as products made out of jelly. Phthalates are esters made of phthalic acid, that are mainly used as plasticizers to make plastics softer, more flexible and transparent. This substance is not
healthy and can cause skin irritations or worse! Same goes for cyber skin and similar products. If you want to use dildos and plugs made from these materials, put a condom on it.
- Lubricants are always good to have. They are great for massages and obligatory for anything involving anal stimulation. Be aware of the fact that most lubes made of silicone are not suitable for silicone and other soft material toys. They make the material porous, inviting bacteria to crawl in. A waterbased lube is advisable.
Also know that some women can get itches or react allergic to certain lubes. A waterbased lube without glicerin and paraben is your best choice.
Never use vaseline or normal massage oils as a lube – if a woman is involved. These products are not good for the mucous membrane.
A cleaning and desinfection solution is needed to clean your toy after anal use.
Toys for experimental boys
The Penis Ring
A penis ring is an elastic ring that a man wears at the base of his penis. The pressure of the ring encourages the blood flow in the penis, making the erection bigger and harder. Just like squeezing the penis firmly at the base during sex to prevent from coming before the man is willing to come, the penis ring helps the man to endure longer. There are also bigger sized rings for the testicles, or for the whole package.
The Penis Ring with good vibrations
It is getting more exciting now. Not only does the man have a harder and bigger erection while wearing the penis ring, the penis also vibrates gently. This is not only pleasant for him: during sex, the vibrating part of the ring touches the clitoris of the woman… Nice!
The man can also wear the vibrating part of the ring upside down, having it vibrating against the testicles. This will make it a challenge to last, though
The Tiny Vibrator… of your Girlfriend
Girls like toys too, so chances are she will have a little vibrating friend lying around somewhere in the bedroom. A little bullet vibrator or a special vibrator to stimulate her is not only wonderful for playing with her clitoris and vulva; it is also good for massaging the penis, or massaging the part between the testicles and the anus – the perineum.
I am a big fan of men who are open for anal explorations – and with that I do not mean only the female behinds. First of all, men are blessed with a prostate, which you can compare to the female g-spot. Apart from it being a pleasure button, the prostate stores and secretes the fluid that contains the semen and neutralizes the acidity of the vaginal tract while ejaculating. The prostate also ensures no urine gets into the urethra during sex.
In addition, there are many nerves in and around the anus to stimulate.
An anal plug is a great toy to massage the prostate and the nerves inside the anus, causing the man to reach intense orgasms. Use a plug that is bent for a better prostate massage, like Bob made by Lelo, or try other materials such as stainless steel plugs, for instance the wooden pleasure object Romp by NobEssence, or the Pfun Plug from njoy. Make sure the toy you choose has a good grip, so the anal sphincter keeps the toy in place and prevents it from slipping in entirely. You don’t want to make a trip to the hospital.
Don’t neglect your anal side, guys!
Once a man has tried a little anal plug, he will most likely feel the desire to go one step further, or actually… one size further. The key is to always use lots of lubicrant and insert the dildo slowly and gently. Take your time.
For the most amazing experience, we advice glass dildos. Make sure the glass is unbreakable, like special Duran glass. It is great to warm the dildo in advance with some warm water, or if the man has been naughty, use a glass dildo that has been in the fridge… woah!
N.B.: don’t forget the grip!
Another way to massage and stimulate all the wonderful nerves inside the anus, is by using anal beads. The trick is to quickly pull them out at the exact moment the man experiences an orgasm. This will greatly intensify the sensation… oh my…
“Shake it, baby” gets a whole new meaning when it comes to anal vibrators. It is an extremely intense sensation, which can cause the man to come fast.
Again, make sure you choose a vibrator with a grip, or a long thread so you can easily pull it out. I recommend Billy by Lelo or Tango by Fun Factory.
Masturbators are nice alternatives for the regular hand job. There are toys made out of soft cyber skin, looking like the mouth of a woman, or more stylish products that do not resemble body parts, but do know how to pleasure a man.
A fun looking toy – and a great gift for Easter! – is the Tenga Egg. Check out the Tenga website for more male lust bringers that you can leave in your bath room without worrying that someone might find them… Well, unless he knows his business…
Icecubes are not only for keeping your drink cold. You can also insert a cube in your anus, just before coming. It intensifies the orgasm and increases the duration of the orgasm. It is a great little trick for men who do not climax easily.
N.B.: the brands being mentioned are not paying me to do so. I suggest specific toys because I have good experiences with them and can therefore highly recommend them to you. My motto: good products get my support.
PEACE OF THE SEXES
The twenty-first century woman has been fighting hard, for she wants it all: equal rights, equal possibilities, equal opportunities, equal salaries, equal choices. She combines family and career; she emancipates further each and every day; she claims her rightful place in society. And it is about time she does!
While leaving her mark at every tree aside the Road of Men, she fights a second battle: the battle to remain a woman. To conserve her femininity. To be sexy and seductive. To keep men interested. She does Pilates, she bleaches her anus, she corrects her labia and tightens her vagina. Be gone pubic hair, and welcome the fresh-out-of-the-womb-look! The plastic surgeon is her best friend. She buys her magazines with the ten hottest tips to keep a man both satisfied and far from bored in bed. She memorizes the ten hottest outdoor locations to have the sex that will keep her relationship exciting and alive. Modern Woman fights simultaneously against and for men. Sounds like a mission impossible to me…
How about the twenty-first century man? Does he have it any easier? Let’s see:
Having the ancient role as the main provider, his main task is his job, his career. But being a working horse does not suffice any more. He needs to be home and help the working woman out too. For why should she be solely responsible for the housework, or the kids? It’s unfair, and things being unfair are usually good points for discussions and a valid reason for change. So he tries not to come home too late, helps out with the tasks in the house and spends time with the kids.
When it comes to her personal needs, the modern man has it really easy: modern woman wants a friend and a stud, an all-in-one package. A man she can talk to, a man who understands her, a man who can open up and is not scared to show his feelings. And a man who can throw her on the bed and shows her who is boss. A man who can take her for hours and still has the physical and mental energy to discuss the colour of the new bathroom tiles. A man who brings flowers, and bondage tape. So Modern Man plays both roles the best he can.
Size does not matter? The spam in the mail box says otherwise. Already tired after one hour of love-making? That can’t be, according to the internet. Besides trying to balance his female and male side, male enhancement and male endurance form the main battle of the the twenty-first century man. Needless to say man too knows his way to the plastic surgeon – and the psychologist.
How did we get this far? Where did we lose track? How come that the more open and easy-going our society seems to get – especially when it comes to sexuality we’d all like to think that almost everything goes – the more pressure we put upon ourselves? How come we are always emphasizing on and nagging about the differences between the sexes, instead of recognizing and admitting the similarities? Why always the negative in stead of the positive approach? In other words: why the battle instead of the party?
We will never be able to fully understand the other sex. Is that so bad? I mean, do we really need to? Men will never do things the way we women want them to, like throwing the dirty laundry directly in the washing machine in stead of leaving it on the bedroom floor. And when it comes to throwing away the stinking garbage, we girls can easily forget about our wish for… ehm… what was it again… something that ends with ‘pation’? Annoying? Yes. But it also keeps things interesting.
How about some positive changes?
Let’s start by forgiving the Bad Boys from the past who caved women in – and forgive the Caved Women for letting men do that to them. Let’s agree that both men and women are equal, great, sexy and fascinating! Let’s rejoice in our differences – and be even more thrilled about the things we share! Let’s stay curious about one another and let’s never find out each other’s secrets! Let’s throw all the barriers, boundaries and stereotypes our ‘progressive’ society has blessed us with overboard and say: “we are sexual!”
Isn’t time to start being happy together?