Imagine walking in a forest and finding this…
Dear readers and viewers,
Some time has passed by since I’ve written my last post. What has happened? Well, my daughter is 14 months old now and quite a handful of cuteness 
And just a bit over one month ago my naked man and I got married. I did not really have the time to concern myself with other naked males, but I did think about this topic and where to go from where I’d left off.
NMHW was born in March 2008. At the time I was determined to get the naked male body as a subject of female desire as much into the spotlight as I possibly could. I did my research, I shared my thoughts, reviewed some books, movies and magazines and I posted as many beautiful male bodies I could get my hands on. Inspired by my experiences with the male customers of the erotic boutique I worked for, I also wrote about male sexuality related themes. The feedback on NMHW so far has been amazing, but sadly not amazing enough to continue.
M., here you are 
When I started this project, I had already thought op some theories why the nude male is such a big deal: see my article The Search for Cock. But over time I realized there may be a bigger reason why male nude photography for women is not working: women are not men.
What is the main purpose of erotic nude photography (when it is not made to be art)? Exactly. It is masturbation material. Men can look at a picture of a naked woman – or just the essential body parts of a woman: breasts, ass, vulva – and get turned on in such a way that it is enough to make a masturbation session have a satisfactory ending. For me no photo of a naked man, no matter how erotic or good looking he is, has such an effect on me. To be honest, I do not know any woman who masturbates while looking at photos of male nudes. If there are women who do this, let me know! I do enjoy looking at nice photographs of naked men and if I particularly like one, of course I wonder what it would be like to touch that beautiful body. But that’s where the fantasy ends. Something vital, something that men do not really need, is missing: movement.
And another one of M.
In order to imagine if a man is a good lover, I need to know how he moves. If I see an attractive man having sex with someone, I can imagine if he is good or bad at it. If I have the impression he is breathtakingly good, then the naked man starts to turn me on.
For a submissive ‘shiny’ friend
I think men do not need to see a naked woman move because they probably fantasize more about what they do to her than what she might do to them. A woman doesn’t necessarily have to do much for the man to have satisfying sex. Even if she would just lay in bed and let herself be taken, it would most likely be quite boring, but it would do. Vice versa though, it surely would not. When sex is perceived in its essence, the woman plays the passive part in the bedroom, the man the active. Receiving and giving. Stagnation and movement.
This photo I particularly like
I assume this is the reason why women do not go crazy over male nude magazines, books or any other medium that shows male nude photography. Therefore the magazines, no matter how good they are, do not survive, illustrated books do not sell enough and no publisher is interested in publishing male nude photography for a female target group – unless you pay for them to print it and honestly, that says enough.
For ‘my wife’
And there is the reason that all good things, even Naked Men, Happy Women, must come to an end. Funny enough, when I started writing this post, an exhibition about naked men opened in the Leopold Museum in Vienna. You can see some of the art work underneath this article. Not the best photos, but I was not allowed to use the flash . Although people who have seen the exhibition poster (the one with the three naked football players) hanging all over town were mostly ‘shocked’ or ‘disgusted’ by seeing completely naked men – people have been covering up the penises on the posters! – there were lots of people attending the exhibition while my husband and I were there…
Anyway, it seems people finally do start to realize the naked man needs more attention – and is worth more attention! The male body is beautiful, erotic and sensual and should not be hidden. I hope my blog has made a worthy contribution to break through and I thank all of you for your support, your compliments and your suggestions! A special thanks is for all the men who have taken the courage to mail me photographs of themselves that I was allowed to share here on Naked Men, Happy Women. Thumbs up, guys!
This is the image that has been used for the poster – and where people covered up the penises…
The proof that ‘Naked Men, Happy Women’ was there.
Yep, that girl is me
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October 22, 2012 at 10:42 pm
yasminselena
I completely understand why you’ve chosen to withdraw from the blog, but really hope you leave it up, as I have *loved* visiting the site and enjoying the pix you’ve amassed.
Congrats on your wee one and getting married, it was a really pleasant surprise to see you post : ) x
October 23, 2012 at 2:57 am
cfnmguy
Well welcome back Gabigirl! I am so excited you are back…
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It seems you have reaseon to be a truly happy women! I am happy for you and wondering what is happening next here…
I missed your writing, interesting links and points of views.
And I missed sending you nude pictues of myself and other naked men
October 23, 2012 at 11:08 am
Snow
To be honest I found reading this quite upsetting, not because of the news but this
“A woman doesn’t necessarily have to do much for the man to have satisfying sex. Even if she would just lay in bed and let herself be taken, it would most likely be quite boring, but it would do. Vice versa though, it surely would not. When sex is perceived in its essence, the woman plays the passive part in the bedroom, the man the active. Receiving and giving. Stagnation and movement.”
I probably haven’t written a comment before, but that’s kind of natural since I masturbate while looking at men’s pictures so I was probably too busy with other things… I’m the active partner in bed, I give, I fuck, I make love. I prefer no movement from the man unless I tell them to move. I know other women who are like me in this and I know men who prefer to be passive. We date them. We like to look at men and think all the things we’d like to do to them.
The fact that you don’t enjoy being the active partner doesn’t mean others don’t. If you see sex only as penis-in-vagina… even then what you wrote isn’t true, it’s just a repetition of the old BS which keeps the perception of women as passive receivers (and vice versa with men) alive and kicking. It’s hard to accept that it was written by someone I admired for sharing their work and somewhere that I felt is totally “my world”.
I’m sorry for ranting like this. I just hope I’d have not read this at all.
October 24, 2012 at 11:36 am
Gabigirl
Dear Snow,
Thank you for your comment. I may not have explained myself clearly here, so I will try again. Of course I am aware that there are women who play the active role, etc., etc. No need to tell a woman who worked in the ‘sex business’ *wink*. And I definitely do not want to support the perception of women only being passive receivers. No way! With my comment I only tried to look at the most basic sexual act, that’s why I wrote ‘when sex is perceived in its essence’. In order to procreate, the man gives his semen to the woman. That kind of basis give-and-take sex. Does that make my line of thought more clear?
I wrote the whole text based on how I tick when it comes to male nude photography and fantasizing, I did not mean all women tick the same way, although I do think many do. Therefore I find it very cool that you took the time to write your comment. I am sure many women can identify with it!
As for me personally, I do prefer an active man who knows what he’s doing. When I have a passive man in my bed, it means that he is either sleeping, sick or I am playing the active part, but the latter is mostly for his pleasure. Although… with the strap-on… See?
October 24, 2012 at 11:39 am
Gabigirl
Dear Yasmineselena,
I will leave the blog up of course. If I stumble upon new, beautiful pictures of naked men, I will post them too. But I will most likely not do much else with the blog or the theme anymore.
November 9, 2012 at 1:12 pm
Lyn
I find it hard to believe that a woman wouldn’t want to masturbate to a picture of a naked, or even semi-naked man that she finds erotic. I didn’t know I was so different. Oh well, lucky me I guess.
One thing I will say though is that photos of men often don’ t quite get the clothing right. Big white undies, for example are such a turn off. Hopefully there will be more attempts to sex up men in the right way and more women can get off on the fantasy of sex with a good looking stranger.
Even though your blog is ending, I hope you keep writing in some form as you’re always interesting.
January 7, 2013 at 8:31 pm
Fangirlswoons
Hey Gabigirl,
Glad you are doing well with your family
Interesting post here. I can certainly see your point about needing to watch how a man moves. I love watching men move.
But, I do love still pictures of men too. I often find them arousing. The photo may trigger a fantasy. It may remind me of a particularly wonderful past sexual experience. Or, it may just make my mind go “wow! that is hot!!”
What I love about seeing pictures or videos of handsome men is that it always puts a smile on my face. When I look for such photos, they needn’t be nude. Head shots will often do. I love watching fan-made videos of my favorite male stars. It just puts me in my happy place. It is by far the most mood-lifting activity I know of, outside of sex itself.
Pictures of hetero sex are the most arousing for me. Solo men or even groups of men are also titillating.
I guess you could say I like all of the above
Cheers!
April 22, 2013 at 7:23 pm
joel
ton site et tres cool love sur les photos des hommes nu pour tout le monde qui voie la beaute du cort artiste
May 4, 2013 at 7:50 am
Gabigirl
Merci beaucoup