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Now that would be a pleasant ‘goodmorning’ surprise. The only thing failing is breakfast
I have a new object of desire. Not in this world of course, but I’d like to think in a parallel world: Peter Bishop (Joshua Jackson). Yes, I have recently started watching Fringe and I love this series! Parallel worlds, many worlds theory, you name it, it is all my cup of tea. And then the eye candy… sigh… I like him best when he looks either angry, or when he is kind of looking innocently naughty. Mhh!
There is just one big problem: he is not naked…
A great article about pornography for women and the Dutch television channel Dusk, by Suraya Sidhu Singh:
“It’s recently come to worldwide attention that a television channel featuring only porn aimed at women – Dusk – is thriving in The Netherlands, and has been for three years. The channel features the work of prominent female porn directors such as Erika Lust and Jennifer Lyon Bell, and a range of other explicit adult films aimed at women.”
“The changing world of porn for women indicates that if women aren’t increasingly holding the purse strings and calling the shots ourselves, we’re at least starting to be involved far more in the design and production of that which targets us as consumers.”
P.S.: my country makes me proud!
First thing I read this morning, was a Live Journal post by Filament Magazine. In this post Filament asks her readers if the magazine lacks larger women and women of colour. I have already written a reply on Filament’s Facebook page, but since I can’t get this question out of my mind, I obviously need to write something more. Good thing I have a blog !
As I started my comment on Facebook: there is always a group of people who feels left out, neglected or ignored, no matter what the issue is about. It is quite simple though: you can’t blame the baker for not having apples, just because you want an apple.
If you buy Filament Magazine, you buy a magazine that is meant for women who desire:
1. Stimulating reading
2. Saucy fiction
3. Beautiful men
It says so on the cover, you can’t miss it. So to me this makes it very clear what I can expect. Although men can certainly read the magazine and enjoy its photography, the target group is still women. If you are a guy buying the magazine, you therefore can not complain that it hardly offers female nudity. Same goes for homosexual women. If you are a homosexual man, you have to accept the photography is meant to arouse and please the female gaze. If the images do not appeal to you, you buy yourself a gay magazine.
The woman who made Filament think about the visual representation of women in the magazine complains they don’t show plus size women… Considering the above, I do not understand where this complaint is coming from. As Filament replies in the post, they hardly show naked women in general. See point nr 3: Filament offers beautiful men.
I am very happy about this, because it really, really annoys me that almost anything erotic that is out there for heterosexual women – magazine, films, documentaries – mostly shows female nudity. The fact that Filament does not, makes the magazine not only fill in a long neglected market niche, it makes the magazine stand out.
One could ask Filament why they do not have let’s say more 35-plus male models, or Asian male models, or why Brad Pitt is lacking, or why the Chippendales are not featured naked. Those questions fit to the magazine’s subject, namely naked men. But in the end one magazine can’t meet every one’s wishes. And of course there are men and women of all sizes, ages and colours. That does not mean they should all be represented in a single magazine, especially not in one that specializes in a certain theme.
Erotic and pornographic magazines are not about representing society and visualizing reality, they are about triggering fantasies, lust and the imagination. It does seem to me that people tend to lose track of that, confuse what is real with what is not. I for one do not want to fantasize over images of Christian Bayle having sex with a woman like me, who is 35, does not like to do sports (so imagine…) and on top of that is pregnant as well. I also don’t want to lust over images of Johnny Depp with a beer belly, just because that is reality. In my fantasies I have the freedom to rule out reality and that’s exactly what I want an erotic magazine to offer me.
Filament Magazine is what it is, nothing more and nothing less. It is even better: it is an one-of-a-kind magazine. My answer to Filament’s question is:
Dear Filament, please don’t get distracted by things people want that have nothing to do with what you are aiming for! Don’t lose track and give us more beautiful men!
The prologue of the book “111 Reasons Why We Should Love Men” by Victoria B. Robinson starts with a personal reason: “Because men are not half as bad as their reputation.” It’s true, they aren’t. But it seems that after decades and decades of blaming them for many wrongs in the world and trying to figure out why they seem to be so different from us women, we tend to forget. After five years of trying to make him stop picking his nose right next to me – while I am eating – and shooting the result into the room, it can be a bit tough to remember. But I have eagerly said “yes” to his recent marriage proposal anyway, so he can’t be that bad
As far as I could find out, this humourously written but oh so true book is only available in German at the moment. Hopefully that will change, because I find it a must-have. It is a must-have for all women, both those who have forgotten why they should love men and those who haven’t. But it is also a must-have for men. For them the book offers an insight in how we ladies perceive them. Now, that knowledge can come in handy! Apart from that, I think it is good for men to know that there are women out there who do not think they are the boogieman.
Here are ten more reasons to smile and ponder over:
1)… Because men don’t give a damn what we are wearing.
2)… Because men will think of the funniest tricks and strategies to get us into their bed.
3)… Because men are pregnant with us (I like this one and know for a fact it is true!).
4)… Because men build us things.
5)… Because men can be amazing cooks – if they want to.
6)… Because men earn more for the same job, and then share their salary with us.
7)… Because men do think about criticism, even if they reject it at first.
8)… Because men send us clear messages, that we in return like to reinterpret.
9)… Because men can be easily persuaded.
And last but certainly not least:
10)… Because men have a penis (which we do not need to have – thank god – we can simply borrow and use it!).
N.B. Each and every reason comes with a full and thorough explanation.
This week NMHW has a very special male body of the week. Fans of Filament Magazine might recognize him…
Although M. and I have never met – and probably never will – we have become good e-mail friends. It has taken me many months to convince him to let me post a picture of him on this blog. Good thing that I am quite patient, for as you can see, he has finally agreed
“Lekker…”, as we say in The Netherlands ;P
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