More, more, more!
I actually have to hang up the laundry, clean the dishes, mop the floor and finish a book or two, but who would not rather surf the net for some beautiful images of beautiful men 
This evening I have found Claudio Poblete on Flickr. I have chosen some pictures that appeal to me. If you are hungry for more, check out his photostream. Have a look at Summertime and People!
Just now I had a great laugh reading a report about the event “Porno für Frauen/Porno for Women” that was being held in the Phoenix Supper Club in Vienna last Thursday. My friend and colleague Lucie and I were there, and we can assure you it was certainly – and very much unfortunately – not as interesting as the organizer of the event would like you to believe.
We arrived at the club just before the beginning of the expert discussion, so I cannot tell you what the first part of the evening was like. What I can tell, is that not even one drink was included in the €25,- ticket price. We only got a free double lollipop.
The discussion itself started almost half an hour later than announced in the programm. The duration was less than a meagre 30 minutes. Due to the shortness, the guests – Dr. Laura Meritt, Petra Joy, Barbara Balldini and Dr. Georg Pfau – did not get the opportunity to deepen the discussion, which was a shame, for especially the female guests have innovative views on the topic…
The discussion started with the question if there actually is a demand for porno made for women/made by women. Of course the answer is yes, and I was very happy to hear my own statement, that there is not much for us females to enjoy when it comes to pornography. We surely can watch the porno’s made by men, for men, but in the end it is always the same formula, without seeing much of the males involved (meaning “the rest” of the fascinating male body) or women truthfully climaxing. The obligatory cum shot in the face or on the ass is not something that is of real interest for us either. We much rather see a man climaxing by watching his movements, facial expression and sounds. That is sexy for us.
Also the myth that women are not into visual stimuli got a bit of attention. Of course visual images stimulate and arouse us. There is – like I wrote above – just not much for us to get stimulated by.
When it comes to visual stimuli: girl-on-girl action for men is considered as common as common can be. I even have the feeling that bi-sexuality nowadays has become a trend, something we have to try out in order to be cool. It is in the media all the time, quite a fascinating development, although it also creates a new sort of pressure. When it comes to pornography, the bi-sexual man-on-man act is hardly there though. Straight women would like to see more of that!
In addition, Balldini’s contribution concerning anal sex, saying that men should also have something up their buttoms – for they miss out on 50% of their sexuality when they do not explore their anal side – made us very happy. It’ so true! And: even though you don’t always see it in porno’s: use lots of lubricant! It hurts if you don’t!
Dr. Georg Pfau’s remark about male clients coming to his practice, complaining that they cannot perform longer than an hour in bed, is also worth mentioning. His clients feel very much pressured, for they think they should be able to perform for hours on end, just like the porn actors in the male produced porno’s they are watching. They do not realize that the actors use medication, that scenes are cut and pasted, and do who knows what else to keep it up.
This proves that not only women get false information about sexuality from porno’s. It also shows that we obviously take pornography way to serious. In the end you see fantasies, things that are not always real or are impossible even, just like in a horror or fantasy movie… It is nothing more, and nothing less.
What totally lacked, at least in my opinion, was the topic “couples and porno”. I was very eager to ask a question about it, for I think there is a whole different psychological side to watching porn together with a partner, but the audience did not get the chance to ask questions or make remarks.
After the expert round had ended, we watched some under aged looking models showing the newest in dessous and lingery. Now I know models have to be thin and don’t look like the regular you and me, but for lingery and dessous to work, a bit more feminine models would have been better.
When the fashion show was over, there was the opportunity for clubbing and dancing. The club was full with guests, but I estimate there were about ten people who stayed – us two excluded. Since no one was dancing, the few that gave it a go went back to their couch after only a few minutes. We left around 00:30. By then there was hardly anyone left. So much for “partying deep into the night”
So what is the difference between male and female orientated porno?
Female porn producers like Petra Joy, Erika Lust and Jennifer Lyon Bell want to show female sexual fantasies and true sexual experiences, without faking it. In their movies you see everything, just like in male focussed porno’s. The difference is that you get a bigger picture, see more of the male body and his performance (he truthfully works on pleasing the female) and see women enjoying it and climaxing.
Some movies are more suggestive, others more artistic or with more story. That might be the biggest difference. In the end though we are all different and like different images. Men can just as easily enjoy female focussed pornography, and vice versa. Most important is that we communicate about it, and that there are men and women out there who dare to experiment and be creative.
As a finale, you can have a look at a short erotic film by Erika Lust, called “Handcuffs”.
To my pleasant surprise photographer Joe Malina came by my shop last week. The great news is that there’s is going to be a Malina calendar for the year 2010 with naked men and couples! Plus: new photo’s of beautiful male bodies for naked men, happy women are on their way! Huray!
Being a bit bored this evening – eventhough I have more than enough to do – I felt like surfing for some male nudity. This time I had a good look at the work by Dylan Ricci. In my opinion his work has something homo-erotic, but at the same time I find the images attractive as well. I remember a discussion with a friend of mine, some time ago. He told me that supposedly women seem to be more and more interested in – and turned on by – homo-sexual images and adult films. In contemporay female erotic literature and magazines, the fantasy of seeing two men, c.q. one’s boyfriend having sex with another men, is mentioned quite often. Interesting development I think. A good one too. The more naked men, the better
For your pleasure, some more beautiful images by Dylan Ricci. Check out his webpage and his motivation to photograph nudity.
A friend and colleague of mine wrote me a message today, giving me the link to photographer Pino Pichler and wishing me ‘viel Spaß’ with looking at his work. One of his projects is called Lost in Translation. Now I totally love the movie with Bill Murray, but the photo’s for sure don’t have anything to do with b(e)i(n)g in Japan 
. I was pleasantly surprised though. Here are the images I liked best:
The first picture gives me the impression that the owner is worshiping his cock.
I am totally in love with the second picture in which the guy seems to offer his penis as a present. A cock can certainly be a very nice gift to receive .
I can imagine the man in the third picture looking at his penis thinking “yep, looks all good to me”.
In the forth picture, he is choosing whom to aim at .
The last picture is kind of funny, but I have to say I have mainly chosen it because I find the guy’s hands very attractive and erotic.
‘Für die Welt bist du irgendjemand, aber für irgendjemand bist du die Welt’
‘For the world you are someone, but for someone you are the world’
For weeks, on an almost daily basis, I have been staring at this picture. It hangs in the shop where I work, next to the register, and I think it is breathtaking. This image is a great example of how naked men can be photographed in a way that they look absolutely stunning and erotic for women like me. I mean, doesn’t his body look fascinating and gorgeous? The whole image, the light, the composition, it is all very well chosen and tasteful, and… you even see his cock. The image makes me curious, it makes me want to see more…
And don’t you just want to be the woman standing behind him? Or even better: wouldn’t you want to have a similar picture of your boyfriend? I sure do. So about two weeks ago I decided to write the Austrian artist behind this picture, Joe Malina, an e-mail to ask if I could post ‘Umarmung’ (Embrace) on my blog. One week later he came by the shop and we agreed on talking about it in more detail, which we did today.
Malina mostly takes erotic pictures of women. Not because that is his choice; it’s because men are not too eager to be photographed naked. A woman’s body has always been observed as beautiful and erotic, but somehow it has been different when it comes to the male body. Men do not mind to stand in front of the camera with a weapon or a tool, but naked is a whole different story. There are women though who want to have an erotic photo of their partner or boyfriend, for they do consider his body sexy and good to look at. That’s how Malina has had the opportunity to put the man in front of his camera and capture his essence. And how! His images of male nudity are the best I have seen so far. What a thrill to fantasize how Malina would capture male nudity on film…
Want to see more? Go to the Gallery Joe Malina on my blog or visit his webpage.
Men have it hard. Men are confused and insecure. Men struggle and contemplate. For what does the 21st century fox want from them?
The softy-macho-discussion that started in the nineties, seems to have left the modern man balancing on the edge of an identity crisis: he must be a powerful, overwhelming animal in bed, and be tender and sensitive to our needs; he has to go out and provide for us, and be at home helping out with the housekeeping and the kids; we want him to be tough and strong, and show his soft, ‘feminine’ side. He has to be someone we can look up to and admire, but he must not make us feel small. And eventhough women don’t understand men themselves, he has to know what is going on in our minds, be understanding and be our best friend. What the modern woman wants, is for the man not to be a man, but the synergy of all his and her best qualities: the perfect human being.
Next to having to deal with all these demands, he has to work with a new set of courting rules as well. She is not waiting for him to hunt her down; she hunts him down. She tells him she wants sex and he needs to perform. In her bags she carries her own lifestyle toys, for she knows exactly what and how she wants it. She leads him. And afterwards she’ll call him, or not.
The media, society’s lethal weapon, is not helping man preserving his masculinity either. I have always been annoyed with all those commercials for women, showing us we need to put cream on our bodies because we get old, wrinkled, ugly and fat, or use pant-liners with perfume because our natural body fluids (the same fluids that attract men like flies on honey) supposedly stink… But in stead of simply putting an end to this degradation, society screams revenge and forces ridiculous products on men as well: he has to dye his grey hair, shave with the newest razor invention and use special creams to hide the stress of the day and make his face smooth as baby buttocks. To make the confusion complete, this modern man who is aware of his femininity, who works on his outward appearance, needs to be a non-stop working sexmachine. He can’t be disfunctional or have a break. No wonder men are lost.
If you ask a man about the perfect woman, he most likely would answer that she has to be caring and loving ‘mother’ in general, and a whore in bed. It may sound stereotype, but at least he keeps it simple and realistic. He does not come up with has-to’s, and’s and but’s. He does not require us to search our souls for possible undiscovered regions. We know we have the mother and the whore in us. How to balance them though is a different story. Maybe there lies the source of our problem: women are catching up, and are catching up fast. But fast is not always better. We need time to find our way, to create harmony within ourselves, without scaring the hell out of men.
So shouldn’t we give the men some slack? I am not saying things should go back to prehistoric times, by all means no. But we should know better. We can’t change a man’s nature, and we should not want to. I say let men be men, and let us explore and enjoy them for what they are: different, interesting and hot!
Erotic stories, photography, shopping tips, art, peotry, reviews and essays is what Feigenblatt (fig-leaf), a German erotic magazine, has to offer. Today I have read issue nr. 14, and I am so enthusiastic about it that I immidiately took a subscription. The look of the magazine is appealing, the art and photography very well chosen, and the articles honest and interesting. Even the advertisements ask for your attention.
The topics are, in my opinion, of interest to both men and women. Especially issue nr. 14 is a must for men to read, for male sexuality (how do men think about themselves and their sexuality, the sexual pressure of modern society, sex toys for men) is the main topic. I can’t say much more about Feigenblatt. Just read it!
A new issue of Feigenblatt comes out every 3 months.
A subscription for one year costs €20,- (or €26,- if you do not live in Germany).
Just go for a walk through town and look at the advertisements on billboards, in bus stops, anywhere. Count how often you see a picture of an almost naked man, and compare it with the ammount of advertisements with images of half naked women. If you even you see one, isn’t the image of the male body less explicit or partially hidden?
Now switch on the TV and zap a bit: almost or totally naked women are common to see, even in commercials. You get time to watch them too. The man’s naked body on the other hand, if you are lucky to spot one, is usually limited to everything above the waist. If his ass is shown, you maybe have a full second (woah!) to look at it. And legs are not shown that often either. Not to mention the cock of course. In computer games it is the same story.
Let’s take a love scene from any regular movie: how often isn’t there a bed sheet lying over the male’s buttocks, while the woman’s breasts, ass and vagina are shown without any covering? In the article ‘Male frontal nudity in the movies uncovers an old debate’ in USA Today, the writers say: “While penises are not yet as prevalent as female breasts, they are becoming more accepted”. They mention a couple of movies in which the male actor is seen naked. I dare say the quantity of those scenes is a lot less though in comparison with naked female scenes. And the time you get to watch and admire the actor’s body, is less too. So unfair, don’t you think?
In my opinion, our male-dominated society is the main reason why naked men are hardly shown ‘out in the open’. In general, people seem to think the male body is shocking and pornographic. The female body on the other hand, is considered to be more aesthetic, sensual and elegant. It is a matter of what we are used to: for centuries and centuries, women were described, painted, sculptured, and later photographed and filmed, mostly by male artists. Before the 20th century, female artists had a very hard time to get accepted and acknowledged. If they would have had equal chances back then, we probably would have seen the (naked) man as a subject in art a lot more. But even today, the explicit naked male body in art or film is seen as unconventional and provocative. Not to mention that there are quite some men who perceive it to be gay or a sign of weakness for a man to expose himself naked. Imagine: there are countries, also in Western society, where it is forbidden by law to show a fully erect cock on TV. Tits and pussies are perfectly normal though. Of course, the film industry is also dominated by men. No surprise here.
I sometimes catch myself thinking that by keeping their pants on, men subconsciously try to keep women under their thumb. It is a fact that women are not given equal chances, job positions or wages. We try to catch up though. Maybe that’s why men don’t show their sexy goodies, like they are saying: ‘you can get my job and maybe, someday, even receive the same payment for it, but you won’t get my cock.’
If we want this to change, we women have to be a lot more straightforward about our sexuality and what we want than we are today. Because no matter what people claim about the positive development of female sexuality and emancipation in the last couple of decades, people generally still think in the old fashioned way: a woman is not supposed to be sexually agressive or take initiative, because that makes her a whore. Women do not like porn, women do not masturbate, women do not fart or belch, etc., etc. Bla, bla, bla.
So let us finish what we have started, right here and now, and say: we want to see more naked men! On billboards, in movies, on TV, in commercials, in games, in magazines, everywhere. Men have beautiful, erotic bodies that appeal to us, fascinate us and turn us on. You get to see us; now we want our fair share!
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